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Our IVF stress

6:35pm Tuesday 7th July 2009 in


I understand people are entitled to their own opinion, but unless you are or have been in our situation – trying to get IVF treatment on the NHS – then you cannot begin to imagine what emotional stress us couples are under.

Quote from Lady Penelope: “It’s nature I’m afraid. Your body was NOT destined to have children. There are 100s of children waiting to be adopted.”

Not destined to have children? Does that mean someone who has terminal cancer is not destined to live?

Has anyone seen the criteria for adopting? Does anyone know how hard it is to adopt?

Quote from IMHO: “It is wrong to spend taxpayers’ money on IVF while people wait for hip replacements and cancer treatments.”

What am I? I am a taxpayer. Both myself and my partner have worked since leaving school.We have never had any kind of help from the government.

We go to work, we pay our taxes and NI contributions, we pay for our medications so where do our contributions go?

We are approaching £13,000 spent on fertility treatment.We have both worked hard to save this money. We live a basic life so we can try and complete our dream of having a family.

We only hope that the PCT do change the rules and that we become eligible for NHS funding.

MJ, Oxford (Full Name and address supplied)

Comments(6)

Old zimner says...
10:39am Wed 8 Jul 09

MJ My dear wife has paid tax all her working life, till her retirement, and would have liked to have been a bit bigger up top. But the NHS wouldn't pay for the op. Like wise I would have liked to have been a bit bigger down below, much as you would like to have a baby. Should the tax payer have to pay for this? and where do we stop, big ears, bent nose, let the NHS pay for it. Sorry but no. And your comment about the cancer sufferer just shows your selfishness. Work harder, forego the HD TV, and pay for some more treatment. Good luck

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MANGO2512 says...
1:35pm Wed 8 Jul 09

Old Zimner.
I will continue to save for my treatment,I have never relied on anyone for anything and am not about to start now, If the PCT change the rules then yes it will help, you have your own opinion but your comparisons to someone who cannot have children are out of order. I have never been a selfish person and never will be, my comment regarding someone with terminal cancer was in repsonse to Lady Penelopes comment regarding "NOT destined to have children" If you are dying does that mean your not destined to live?? i felt it meant the same thing!!!! And as for working harder and forgoing luxeries, That is something i already do, You don't know me or my life situation so please don't sit at your computer and judge me. Thank you for the good luck.

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MANGO2512 says...
1:56pm Wed 8 Jul 09

Also.... I think you will find that if you are small up top or have big ears or a bent nose, If it affects your life and your emotional well being then treatment is available on the NHS. There are also alot of people that want to be bigger up top or want a new nose so they play the system and get funded treatment which in turn leave less funds for people that really need it. Maybe if there wasnt so many people "playing the system" you may have got the op you wanted to make you a bit bigger!!!!

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traceups says...
2:33pm Wed 8 Jul 09

Old zimner wrote:
MJ My dear wife has paid tax all her working life, till her retirement, and would have liked to have been a bit bigger up top. But the NHS wouldn't pay for the op. Like wise I would have liked to have been a bit bigger down below, much as you would like to have a baby. Should the tax payer have to pay for this? and where do we stop, big ears, bent nose, let the NHS pay for it. Sorry but no. And your comment about the cancer sufferer just shows your selfishness. Work harder, forego the HD TV, and pay for some more treatment. Good luck
Old zimner. I cannot believe what i am reading! Why shouldn't the NHS pay for IVF for unlucky couples who can not concieve naturally? The HNS pay thousands of pounds for drug addicts and alcoholics to go into rehab only for them to come out and start using again,complete waste of taxpayers money! Giving a couple the chance to have at least one child would be the biggest gift of all and it wouldn't be money wasted.

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elizabeth.w says...
10:57pm Wed 8 Jul 09

Old zimner wrote:
MJ My dear wife has paid tax all her working life, till her retirement, and would have liked to have been a bit bigger up top. But the NHS wouldn't pay for the op. Like wise I would have liked to have been a bit bigger down below, much as you would like to have a baby. Should the tax payer have to pay for this? and where do we stop, big ears, bent nose, let the NHS pay for it. Sorry but no. And your comment about the cancer sufferer just shows your selfishness. Work harder, forego the HD TV, and pay for some more treatment. Good luck
old zimner maybe the nhs should fund you and give you heart as you obviously haven't got one how the hell can you compare having a baby to your wife wanting to be bigger and you being small down below how do you know that mj has a HD TV just because you probably have one not everyone is the same you .And yes i pay taxes and NI and i would be happy knowing that my money went to people who deserve it not these junkies and alkies that don't. good luck mj take no notice of small minded busy bodies

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Old zimner says...
8:42am Thu 9 Jul 09

Looks like I have just swiped the proverbial Hornets nest. TAKE COVER

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